How to Deal with Infidelity in a Relationship

By Minnie J. Andrews / November 28, 2018
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Being in a relationship makes life beautiful, but this feeling lasts only when everything is, and your relationship is able to pass the health test. The most important aspect of having a relationship in life is to make things better and a part of self-development. The biggest boat cracker in life and in a relationship is infidelity.

Infidelity is the ultimate life spoiler which can make life a living hell. We all know about couples, that have survived infidelity and emerged stronger than before but most of them fail. They feel cheated and emotionally broken by this experience.

Taking care of the relationship and making it strong is the responsibility of both partners. They enter a relationship together and have a mutual responsibility of developing it. However, affairs can happen in any relationship, and the static suggests that almost one-third of relationships suffer from this issue.

Infidelity in Relationship

Unfortunately, infidelity has become so common that it has become a major reason of couples breaking up. The situation is so worse that it is not even called cheating, well not anymore. We all live in the phase of denial about infidelity till it breaks havoc upon us. ‘Nah, it will not happen to us’. My partner loves me very much’, he might be indulged in harmless flirting’, these are the common statement we say to our self and others. But the fact is that we are hiding behind these statements. If you have any suspicion or negative feelings about a partner, then talk openly about it. Believe me dealing with infidelity in marriage is the toughest thing in the world; it not only breaks your marriage but has a deeper impact on your personality, self-respect and confidence.

Women are likely to be more affected with infidelity as they are the worse victim of this situation. They develop their world around there spouse, children and when the cloud of infidelity breaks havoc on them, they start blaming themselves for the mistakes of their partner. The epicenter of their life gets shaken, and so is their personality. More women fell into depression in comparison to men because of their cheating partner. They try to justify their deeds by counting them of the inferior version as compared to their partners. This is the wrong attitude and requires immediate attention. Your partner cheated because he was not able to remain faithful to you, not because there is something wrong about you.

Why we cheat

So why this happens that a couple who is in love from head to heal with each other, break up? Why people cheat and why we as a person are tempted to fall into the trap of infidelity?

Well, because we are weak, we feel tempted and because we find a sense of power and fun in cheating. After staying together for a long time in the relationship we become so habitual of each other that we stop feeling desirable, we start feeling dull and unromantic with our partner.

Some people cheat because of their unmatched sex desires or because they want to explore something new in their sex life.

Some people cheat as they find it hard to stay committed and because their parents are divorced or had an affair.
Sometimes the reason behind infidelity is a search for happiness and adventure.

No matter what reason they might have, but the truth is that infidelity is a sin and that it has a negative impact on the person and has a deeper impact on the partner and family.

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How to cope with infidelity in marriage

If you are looking for information and methods on coping with infidelity in marriage, then you and your spouse are facing some kind of situation. Often when we hear about couples dealing with cheating and infidelity, we often wonder why don’t they separate or take divorce. Well, it is not easy, and it never was. Despite the fact that you have cheated over your partner of you have been cheated you have a lot of things between you. Couples try really hard for saving their marriage; they work on rebuilding closeness and companionship all over again. There are some specific steps that can help in rebuilding trust between couples; it might take time to heal, but if they genuinely want to be together then they will be a good help.

If you have been cheated by your partner then never feel that it is because of your shortcomings. You have the right to question him about the issue, and you must do this. Vice versa if you have cheated and still want to save your marriage then answer the entire question asked by your partner honestly. You have done damage, and it’s time to repair.

Recognize positive things in your partner that you have fallen for at the beginning of your relationships. It will help in reviving the lost love and companionship all over again.

Take care of yourself; spend some time and energy on making yourself happy. Remember that you are responsible for your happiness, not your partner. He is just a part of your life, and it is up to you whether you want to continue your life with him or her or not.

About the author

Minnie J. Andrews